Editor’s Note: I have spent the year rejecting the shame and secrecy that society told me to feel about my own story, and engaging with people and organisations that are standing up for rape victims and standing against victim blaming. I have met some wonderful men and women who have shared secrets, fears and shame …
Category Archives: feminism
LIFE
I could never write about this without first saying that I never want to be in the position to make such a choice, but if I am, I hope that I make the decision in line with my beliefs. A lifetime of mistakes has taught me that I do not always hold true to what …
Angry (Black) Woman
A man I know told me that he saw anger in my writing and ever since then I have been angry. I am in the midst of awakening the woman I have always been. She is angry. She is angry at the society that taught her to reach for anything and achieve everything, but judges …
Top Ten Reasons Why I’m Still Single
Relationship status: single. If I am honest, this is more of a problem for other people than it is for me. I can’t understand why these men don’t see how wonderful my daughter is. I’ve been thinking about that sentence ever since my mother casually dropped it into our conversation a few weeks ago. In …
“I Will Become A Straight Girl”
Originally posted on Is This Africa?, I wrote a discussion about “Corrective Rape”, an act unworthy of the human race: “I Will Become A Straight Girl”
There. i said it. 